mylifeasaweapon posted this cosplay meme and I thought it was a pretty interesting set of questions. Plus I’m looking to distract myself from my thoughts. Yay distractions!
Cosplay Personality Meme!
Choose a character from your cosplays that best suits each one…
You relate to most: Rogue. A spitfire who’s not afraid to speak her mind, sweet until given reason not to be, can hold a grudge for quite a while, loyal almost to a fault, wants companionship and love but has serious trust issues, and really craves human contact buuuuut it really depends on who.
The complete opposite of you: Heh. I am absolutely not like Ivy Valentine. I think that costume has created a lot of misconceptions regarding my character, but it’s all pretty funny.
The craziest: Deadpool. I was going to say Dark Ophelia from Brutal Legend, but that’s less crazy and more ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’.
The biggest flirt: Gambit. Yeah, definitely Gambit.
The hardest to stay in character: Emma Frost. My default is ‘nice’. I usually smile for pictures. Trying to make myself have purposeful bitch face is hard.
You’re most famous for being: Probably Ivy Valentine. Or Goblin Queen. Eesh.
Your least favorite: I did classic Phoenix once. It just…wasn’t me. I also did Apple Jack, but as each pony was from a different decade, and I was 90s, it was…awful. Like, I took the worst fashion of the 90s and put it into one costume and…oh man. Bad. Please don’t look up pictures.
You relate to their fashion sense: Uuuh, 90s Apple Jack? But, seriously, this question is laughable, because I don’t have any fashion sense. Also, so many of my costumes involve spandex, and it’s really not something I wear regularly.
You strive to be like: I’m gonna say a combination of She-Hulk and Carol Danvers/Captain Marvel. My last relationship held me down, held me back, and instilled a sense of worthlessness in me that I’m still struggling to shake. I feel like I’m trying to re-establish who I am, while moving forward, loosening up while keeping strong, not backing down, and holding onto my morals.
Yep! Feel free to snag this for your own answers!
megalazyname said: greetings, Bellechere! you are my favorite cosplayer! I was wondering, do you ever visit Anime Weekend Atlanta? or would I have a better chance of seeing your costume in person if I attended Dragon Con?
Thank you so much! DragonCon, for sure! That’s my favorite convention, one I make it to without fail.
Not saying you do, but for some reason a lot of people seem to think I live in the Atlanta area?
I live in Boston.
Anonymous said: The girl from SDCC wasn't assaulted she fell while climbing a fence while high and got injured. I'm mad this guys being a real dumbass threatening you from being able to go to a cool con.
Also, though the other young woman wasn’t actually assaulted, when people *did* believe sexual assault had happened, the phrase ‘she was asking for it’ based off what she was wearing was flying around.
This is only two stories, when I’m sure there are at least a dozen more from just one convention that haven’t received media attention. I say this with conviction because I have been harassed and/or groped at over half the conventions I’ve been to.
But good for you, Anon, for focusing on the entirely wrong point!
I posted this last night on Facebook, so I figured I’d share it here, too.
I will NOT be attending NYCC. I hate to make this call - especially since I was lucky enough to snag a pass, and I haven’t been in a couple years - but it’s necessary. It’s just not a great time for me right now, financially and emotionally.
Even if it was a plentiful time monetarily, the convention has had a dark cloud hovering over it for a few months now since I was threatened. A man who didn’t like me saying that I cosplay for myself, not for other people, threatened extreme physical violence against me if I went to NYCC. He even went so far as to brag about his SO being in the NYPD, so he’d ‘get away with it’. My local authorities shrugged and told me there was nothing they could do (even though I tracked down the man’s name and home address). The NYPD gave me a run-around on the phone that resulted in nothing but wasted time. ReedPop refused to answer any concerned emails I sent them. So, while I don’t want to back down and let a bully win, I’m not exactly wanting to be knocked out and raped (his threats) either.
So! I hope everyone who goes has a great time! Be good to each other!
A couple hours later, I wrote this in response to the comments I was receiving:
~ I’ve received an email from a ReedPop representative, expressing concern for the harassment I received and asking where I sent the emails to. Given that I sent the emails through their automated email form on their website, asking that the messages be forwarded to someone who might assist me, it might have been overlooked or not received. So I could have tried harder to reach a real person.
~ RE: FBI. Friends of mine (cosplayers who have had similar threats/stalker issues) who have tried to involve the FBI regarding online threats/harassment have had extremely little luck in being taken seriously. For one friend it took over a year to get a simple restraining order. I dealt with a lot of anxiety when this was happening, and I didn’t have the time or energy to be put through another fruitless run-around. Needless to say, I’m extremely jaded regarding the justice system.
~ That said, ‘justice’ dealt by the people (ex: ‘outing’ the man by releasing name and address) is something I’ve been dissuaded from. When I approached the authorities regarding this, they told me not to rally people against this person, or I could be charged with organized harassment. Sadly, that’s how the system seems to work, and if (gods forbid) something did happen to me, I’d want nothing a court or jury could use in his favor.
~ Those who are encouraging me to attend anyway… This is a ‘better safe than sorry’ situation. We live in a world where ‘she was asking for it’ is still used as an excuse to sexual assault when a woman is wearing tight/revealing clothing. You know that if something happened to me, while wearing one of my costumes, that’s exactly what people would say. The blame would be placed on me, for what I was wearing, rather than on the assailant. We saw it just a couple months ago, when a young woman was assaulted at SDCC. It’s wrong, it’s something society desperately needs to fix, but it’s an unfortunate truth…and it would destroy me.
Again, if you’re going, enjoy yourself, watch out for yourself and your friends, and be excellent to one another!